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Plastic Mind!

I often mention in my posts how probably the most common word I hear from clients is “stuck”. “Stuck” in a pattern of thinking, “stuck” in relationship with self, “stuck” in a cycle of repeating life situations… It’s not a great feeling. Imagine looking through the gate at a lush field of grass and wild flowers and the only way across you could see was the beaten track you’d taken every single time before. Or maybe you realised that you could go off-path but… then you started thinking about hidden snakes or dog mess or setting off your hay fever and decided to stay safe.

But then imagine if as you stood there a countryside warden came and adjusted the “footpath” arrow next to you – “This should point that way, we just realised” – and you spy, in the new direction, another gate and an exciting-looking meadow beyond, a glint of a stream.

Having made the recent decision that it is long overdue for our family to cut plastic consumption right down to as close to zero as can be done, I have been delightfully reminded just how easily the pointing arrow signs can be swivelled and how light on our feet and instantly-adaptable we are born to be.

When I first became veggie and then later vegan, within a hair’s breadth of time I started reading smallprint ingredients, noticing leather clothing, checking with chefs about cooking techniques. Food I had consumed without thinking before was now carefully scrutinised and often rejected in favour of new dishes and flavours. And it became second nature to do this, so so quickly. Other people saw it as hard work, I just saw it as the natural path. The destination was too tempting to resist and the path itself became a delight.

And so it has been with plastic. Whereas I had my internal filters set to allow plastic consumption to pass under the radar before, simply rolling my eyes at myself when it got (frequently) to recycling day, now I find that I am almost allergic to buying anything wrapped or boxed in the hateful stuff. This in only a month. And why? Because this is now the natural path.

Anytime you were feeling stuck, anytime the beaten track seemed just too barren and familiar, just remember that the mind is the most plastic thing going. As you nudge your identity and values and beliefs towards whatever is your truth, your new path, resplendent with blossoms and lazy bees and promise, will be clearly marked and impossible to miss.


See You When We’re There!

From time to time I have clients who have decided to move on from a drug or alcohol habit, or some other self-negating thing. And they often say, “It’s so hard, because when I go around to X’s house(/down the pub), they all still want to do that, but I don’t want to be in that atmosphere anymore.”

Which is a no-brainer. “So don’t be in that atmosphere.” Continue reading See You When We’re There!

“Once Upon A Time… They All Lived In Increasingly Unpredictable Ways”

One thing you should know about your mind, one of its prime directives, is that it seeks out the familiar: the familiar in ideas, situations, peer groups, relationships and just about everything else. From those 2 million pieces of information coming through your senses every second, anything that is already known or recognised is seized upon. Which is a GREAT skill when you are first building your internal model as a young child and one to continually challenge, shake up or even discard as you get older.

(This week’s news happened to mention research showing that learning new things and challenging your mind vastly reduces chances of dementia) Continue reading “Once Upon A Time… They All Lived In Increasingly Unpredictable Ways”

Zero Fat, Zero Sugar, Zero Caffeine, Zero Additives Energy! (A recipe)

Quite often a client will state that they feel constantly tired. Or demotivated. Or defeated. Or stuck. “Stuck” is right up there at the top of the feeling charts for people, pre-session. “If only I had enough energy [they will say] I could get on top of things.” Or, “I just need to work harder at the relationship/ job /situation, but I’m so exhausted.” Etc etc. It seems a sensible enough premise: if they could access the energy needed, or feel rested and refreshed and raring to go, then they could tick all the boxes in their self-imposed life challenges.The answer to this conundrum, like so many answers, can be seen in children.  We are, after all, born with the most amazing tool box to interface with this world, and when one of the tools doesn’t seem to be working, it’s worth remembering how we used it when it DID work well. Continue reading Zero Fat, Zero Sugar, Zero Caffeine, Zero Additives Energy! (A recipe)

Shadow Pecking!

There is a great story in First Nation US folklore about the origins of the crow. In the story, the crow was originally created in many beautiful colours and loved his colours deeply and how the light shone on them. But when he noticed his shadow, behind him, black as black, he became increasingly perturbed and started to peck at that shadow, to try and make it go away. Over time he became so obsessed with the shadow that he forgot about his colours entirely. All his attention was on the shadow and he pecked more and more… until the day that the shadow had had enough and pecked back, swallowing the crow up and leading to the black bird (with a shimmer of other colours) that we know today.

Continue reading Shadow Pecking!