One of the basic ideas behind NLP is that, whatever we do, whatever decisions we make and whatever behaviour we experience, we are always either at “cause” or “effect”. In other words, we are either in control or we are victims.
“Cause” (in control!) and “effect” (victim!) are programs we run, illusions if you like, and by changing from one to the other, by discovering that inside our vast unconscious model of the universe we have all the switches and controls to change everything from how our bodies operate to the results we get in relationships, career and just about everything else, we can always feel in control, always at “cause”.
Being in control would allow you to zap all those things you regarded as problems, don’t you think?