One thing you should know about your mind, one of its prime directives, is that it seeks out the familiar: the familiar in ideas, situations, peer groups, relationships and just about everything else. From those 2 million pieces of information coming through your senses every second, anything that is already known or recognised is seized upon. Which is a GREAT skill when you are first building your internal model as a young child and one to continually challenge, shake up or even discard as you get older.
(This week’s news happened to mention research showing that learning new things and challenging your mind vastly reduces chances of dementia) Continue reading “Once Upon A Time… They All Lived In Increasingly Unpredictable Ways”
Quite often, sometime deep into a session, a client who has come to me with a recurring behaviour or a set of feelings or some other part of their life weighing them down, will turn to me in a moment of bright-eyed discovery and say “Hey! I see now! This does not belong to me!”. It happened recently with someone who had felt burdened by something all his life and then discovered it was not his burden: it had come from one of his parents and he had never thought to set it down.
Continue reading If You Borrowed It, Then Give it Back! (In the name of all that is sacred)
I am willing to bet that there is something you do regularly that you wish you didn’t. Something self-defeating perhaps, or something you do and then regret and then do again. And again.
Could be something as small as smoking or as big as repeated bad relationship choices, but there will be some kind of cycle involved and, probably, just when you thought you had it “beat”, kerr-pow there it is again, cropping up irresistibly.
Continue reading Dealing with an Unpleasant Tick
Here’s test to see whether I can help you to achieve the success you want..
1) How much do you want this thing? Can you rate it at least 9.5 out of 10?!
2) Has anyone else in history ever achieved this thing?
3) Are you responsible for bringing the success about?
4) Will you be able to tell when you have succeeded?
If you answered “Yes” to all of those questions, then we are cooking! It’s no good coming if your target is something you feel you should want but don’t in your heart, or if it depends on a particular person (not you!) doing something, such as falling in love with you or giving you £100k. If you are happy that as yet un-named and unknown individuals may be involved in bringing you that great thing, and if you are passionate about it, book without delay.
We can work out whether you need 1-3 sessions to get you fired up and pre-programmed to succeed, or a longer coaching arrangement where we can touch base regularly to make sure that each step on your road is smooth and that you are doing the “homework” I set you to really nail your goals.
If you would like to know more about how I can help you achieve greater success, why not request a free 10 min skype or email consultation.
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