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Your Life Does Not Exist (…so have another one any time you like)

New book now out on Amazon in Kindle format!  Paperback coming soon.

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Plastic Mind!

I often mention in my posts how probably the most common word I hear from clients is “stuck”. “Stuck” in a pattern of thinking, “stuck” in relationship with self, “stuck” in a cycle of repeating life situations… It’s not a great feeling. Imagine looking through the gate at a lush field of grass and wild flowers and the only way across you could see was the beaten track you’d taken every single time before. Or maybe you realised that you could go off-path but… then you started thinking about hidden snakes or dog mess or setting off your hay fever and decided to stay safe.

But then imagine if as you stood there a countryside warden came and adjusted the “footpath” arrow next to you – “This should point that way, we just realised” – and you spy, in the new direction, another gate and an exciting-looking meadow beyond, a glint of a stream.

Having made the recent decision that it is long overdue for our family to cut plastic consumption right down to as close to zero as can be done, I have been delightfully reminded just how easily the pointing arrow signs can be swivelled and how light on our feet and instantly-adaptable we are born to be.

When I first became veggie and then later vegan, within a hair’s breadth of time I started reading smallprint ingredients, noticing leather clothing, checking with chefs about cooking techniques. Food I had consumed without thinking before was now carefully scrutinised and often rejected in favour of new dishes and flavours. And it became second nature to do this, so so quickly. Other people saw it as hard work, I just saw it as the natural path. The destination was too tempting to resist and the path itself became a delight.

And so it has been with plastic. Whereas I had my internal filters set to allow plastic consumption to pass under the radar before, simply rolling my eyes at myself when it got (frequently) to recycling day, now I find that I am almost allergic to buying anything wrapped or boxed in the hateful stuff. This in only a month. And why? Because this is now the natural path.

Anytime you were feeling stuck, anytime the beaten track seemed just too barren and familiar, just remember that the mind is the most plastic thing going. As you nudge your identity and values and beliefs towards whatever is your truth, your new path, resplendent with blossoms and lazy bees and promise, will be clearly marked and impossible to miss.

 

See You When We’re There!

From time to time I have clients who have decided to move on from a drug or alcohol habit, or some other self-negating thing. And they often say, “It’s so hard, because when I go around to X’s house(/down the pub), they all still want to do that, but I don’t want to be in that atmosphere anymore.”

Which is a no-brainer. “So don’t be in that atmosphere.” Continue reading See You When We’re There!

Got Any ID Mate?

Sometime in the last few days I heard a radio interview with a man who had served over forty years in solitary confinement in the US prison system, a man who still seemed to have all his marbles despite only leaving his tiny cell for an hour a day during that time. (Bear in mind that Amnesty International regard more than two weeks in ‘solitary’ as torture and likely to affect mental health). When asked how he managed to get through that unimaginable and inhumane period, the man first mentioned that being one of the Black Panther movement, seeing himself as a dedicated Black Panther activist, was key. Continue reading Got Any ID Mate?

“Once Upon A Time… They All Lived In Increasingly Unpredictable Ways”

One thing you should know about your mind, one of its prime directives, is that it seeks out the familiar: the familiar in ideas, situations, peer groups, relationships and just about everything else. From those 2 million pieces of information coming through your senses every second, anything that is already known or recognised is seized upon. Which is a GREAT skill when you are first building your internal model as a young child and one to continually challenge, shake up or even discard as you get older.

(This week’s news happened to mention research showing that learning new things and challenging your mind vastly reduces chances of dementia) Continue reading “Once Upon A Time… They All Lived In Increasingly Unpredictable Ways”